Have you ever felt stuck? Like you’re on the outside looking in. Do you wake up every morning just craving the end of the day where you can get in bed and escape? I’ve been there more times than I can count, and something makes me think you have been there too. Today’s blog is going to be all about finding your spark again and some of my “expert” tips on how to get your life back on track.
Your alarm blares in the morning, reminding you that you have a full day ahead of you, whether that is school, your 9-5, or something in between. You roll your eyes as you groggily get out of bed, and the only thing you are looking forward to about this day is the coffee you are about to have. Same old routine, same feelings of not being fulfilled. Personally, I’m not a coffee drinker, but this is to paint the picture of a life you can wait to wake up to. I have a quote on my wall: “create a life that you can’t wait to wake up to”. The question is…how?
I have gotten sick and tired of only waking up so that I can go back to sleep. I desperately wanted to be one of those people that wakes up and just loves their life and can’t wait to start the day. I think both are unrealistic to living a happy and fulfilling life. You will not wake up every day bright eyed and bushy tailed. Life is crazy and unpredictable and amazing, but every day should be different! You need the happy medium.
Now, what is the happy medium? It is the mindset where you can acknowledge the things holding you back and keeping you unmotivated, but you make a conscious decision to bypass them and focus on things that keep you engaged.
How do you get out of this toxic cycle and get your life back on track? Here is my four step guide on how to do just that:
Step 1: Find a passion that is outside of your work or school. I found that having something not “work” related keeps me looking forward to the rest of the day. I truly thrive feeling like the little kid that can’t sleep the night before the first day of school (heck, I still can’t sleep before the first day of school!) or knowing they get to go enjoy their favorite snack when their mom picks them up from school (for me, it was always an acai bowl from Nekter). Channeling the essence of that little kid will make you a lot more excited to wake up! Currently, mine is weightlifting because it makes me feel strong and empowered. My favorite weightlifting class is on Tuesday nights, and I will look forward to it every other day of the week! Put something into your week that you are excited about!
Step 2: Don’t rely on one person or other people to bring you happiness or to accept you. You, my dear, must be the source of your happiness. Yes, you can obviously enjoy seeing your friends or someone that makes you excited, but you cannot base your entire mood off of others. At the end of the day, all you have is you. Other people don’t know you like you know yourself. You can’t let someone’s opinion of you determine how you feel about yourself. You will never ever find peace within. Be someone you want to be around because you are all you have!
Step 3: Learn when to say no and take a break. Those of you who are like me and say yes to everything, even if we
have to bend over backwards to make it happen, you know what I am talking about. I like to use the analogy that you can’t pour from an empty cup. How are you going to give your all to something you committed to if you aren’t taking care of yourself? Take a step back and look at how you are handling your basic physiological needs. Eating 3 nutritious meals a day with snacks in between, getting 8 hours of sleep a night, drinking half your body weight in ounces of water, etc etc etc. See what I mean? You need to take care of yourself in order to do anything!
Surround yourself with positivity only. Negative people, images, ideas, and so on really take a toll on your well-being whether you realize it or not. We spend hours a day on our phones, so it’s simple. Only follow content that is uplifting and makes you feel good. It can be so easy to get caught up in the drama of what Ned from the Try Guys did or Miss USA being rigged or Kylie Jenner having another baby…it gets old. Make sure the device you spend most of your day on is feeding you messages that fuel you, because what we absorb affects us subconsciously…more than we could ever think. Get rid of toxic people in your life – those who drag you down, make you feel less than, make jokes at your expense, exclude you, lie to you, or you simply just don’t enjoy! The people you surround yourself with dictate your behaviors, thought patterns, and self image whether you know it or not.
I know this blog wasn’t centered around bullying prevention directly, but in a way, this guide is perfect for bully victims trying to find themselves again, parents of victims who need some re-centering, or others who are affected by bullying. It truly all starts within you!
See you next time, Warriors.
All the love,
Kaycee
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